“Let it go”.
It all sounds so easy, such a simple thing to do. But letting go of something isn’t straightforward at all. In fact, I would say that it’s very difficult.
For you don’t just decide, and everything is different now. I wish it was as simple as just making up your mind. But ask anyone – and they’ll say that’s not the case.
Instead there’s this huge struggle for the pain has got a grip. All the hurt and the injustice – plus the need to self-protect – have wound a twisted chord tightly round your broken heart.
In fact, it’s more like some huge chain with a padlock that is stuck. You twist and turn the key. You can try to free the lock – but it’s going to take time, and you know it will be tough.
What to do?
But really wanting to let go is an important starting place. It affirms you want to change, and to write your own life script. You don’t want the pain and trauma to dictate the rest of life.
1. So you need to face the truth – and admit what you’ve gone through. Tell it like it really is. All the heartache. All the shame. All the horror and the shock. All the shattered, broken dreams.
2. And after doing that, you must allow yourself to feel all the horrible emotions you don’t really want to feel.
And as you start to mourn and grieve, you will find you start to heal. For your tears will cleanse your wounds, and you’ll sense a new release.
And very slowly you will notice that you’re starting to let go.
“Do not run away from the heavy emotions. Honour the anger, give pain the space it needs to breathe. This is how we let go.”
- Yung Pueblo