“60 years of marriage and never a cross word, and never a serious argument. We never went to bed without making up. We always sorted out our little differences. And any differences were, really, insignificant.”
So said my Dad when he and my mom were celebrating their ruby anniversary.
Now I grew up in that very same home, and my recollections differ somewhat from my Dad’s. But, to be completely honest, their marriage is inspiring. It would be hard to find a couple who have loved so honestly. So, I’ll allow my dad to have his select memories.
But, still, it leaves me wondering how many young adults will be able to look back and say they, also, knew true love. Is it still possible to be so faithful to another, and to always love that person, and treat them with respect? I’d really like to think that the answer is yes.
But today we all have cell phones, and we have the internet … and I fear that this has altered and changed relationships. But maybe that’s not true, and there’s room for idealism. Perhaps there is no need for that dash of cynicism.
So for my daughters, and the daughters of my friends and relatives, here is what I still wish, and hope, for you:
I hope that you will marry, or partner, with someone who will always be faithful – in every way – to you.
I hope that you’ll find someone who cares about your heart, and chooses not to hurt you, or damage, or betray you.
I hope that you’ll both choose to admit if you feel tempted – because you have resolved to keep the promises you made.
I hope you won’t have secrets that hurt and separate – but you will choose to value and practice openness.
I hope that you’ll feel cared for, protected, safe and loved.
And I hope that you can say that your partner was your friend, a lover who was loyal and caring to the end.