See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil

“Nobody wants to remember trauma. In that regard, society is no different from the victims themselves. We want to live in a world that is safe, manageable, and predictable – and victims remind us that this is not always the case.” – Bessel Vander Kolk

This is the reason people close their ears, turn their faces away, and choose to close their hearts to those who want, and need, to talk about traumatic things.

And this is the main reason why these people judge and shame you – when you find the strength and courage to speak the awful truth … and say were betrayed, or victimized in other ways.

They don’t want to hear it, and they don’t want to know.

For if it happened to you, then it could happen to them, too.

And that is something they can’t bear to contemplate.

So when they’re cold and judgmental, unempathic, or they’re hostile, know this is the reason: They can’t bear to hear the truth.

But know, too, that you also must protect yourself – for these are not safe people to open up and share with.

Because these individuals will never understand. They’ll always turn their backs, and they will always close their ears.

But know that there are also some safe people out there, too.

These are people who are telling the same story as you.

And these are individuals who will truly understand.

And these will be the people who will slowly help you heal.

And you need to find these people – for your story must be heard.

For you deserve to have it witnessed by those who truly care.

By those who’ll journey with you; who will lead you back to shore.