“Tell your secrets. Before we can heal, hope, and love again, we must find a way to give voice to our brokenness, sorrow and pain.” Online Counselling College
We need to be able to share what happened – in great detail – with someone. Without a witness we stay stuck in our pain. It will always be there, shaping and influencing almost every part of our life. The unbearable needs to be spoken, and heard.
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This is so, so true, Ann. I could share every detail with my counsellor when I saw her. However, it worries me that when I get to see someone new (whenever that is), they won’t be aware of what I’ve been through. I don’t have that witness in my life anymore, which I find rather scary. I’m wondering whether I’ll have to go over all the details again with my new counsellor when the time comes. When I am given someone new, I can have up to two years, but I have to pay, and the way things are here with the cost of living crisis, I’m not sure I’m going to able to afford it. They offer a sliding scale, but that’s probably going to be more than I can afford. I’ll have to wait and see. It could be many months yet. I’m finding it quite scary. I hope you are well, Ann. Xx 💕
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Often you do have to go over things with a new counsellor so they have a sense of your story … but hopefully only enough to enable him/ her to work with you on what you want to look at right now. Yes, I wish counselling was cheaper and more available too!
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That’s what II thought. I’m not looking forward to going all through the trauma again. I know it will be necessary as you have described, though. I’ll have to see what my financial state is when I finally get a place. I might not be able to afford it all. I wish it were more available, too. I think it will still be months yet before I hear anything at all. They said they would ring me in a few weeks to tell me they hadn’t forgotten about me. It could still be a long wait after that.
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Yes!!!! It’s so hard to carry this stuff alone.
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I totally agree! Thanks for sharing ❤️
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We need a safe haven to bring these inner thoughts. Speaking from experience, counseling can be such a place.
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Yes, these thoughts need to be shared with someone who is safe and empathic. Thanks for sharing from your experience, Richard. It’s an encouragement to others.
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Amen. “Tell your secrets. Before we can heal, hope, and love again, we must find a way to give voice to our brokenness, sorrow and pain.”
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So true ….
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