“When you know your worth, no-one can make you feel worthless.”
What is Self-Worth?
Self-worth is basically the level of importance you place on yourself. It has an emotional component to it, and greatly influences how you feel about yourself, especially in comparison to other people. It also affects our choices and goals – both on a conscious and an unconscious level.
Self-Worth is something that comes from within. It’s what makes us accept our imperfections – whilst also recognizing we have gifts and strengths (gifts and strengths that we’re happy with, and value). Furthermore, a healthy self-worth keeps us on an even keel – even if we lose our status, our wealth, our looks, our reputation, or our relationships.
What Self-Worth is Not
The following should never be a yardstick for the value we place upon ourselves (or other people): career; education, achievements, and awards; age, colour, gender, race or sexual-orientation; whether we are in a relationship or not; wealth, how much you earn, what your family have achieved, or anything a family member’s said or done.
The Key to Finding Self-Worth
The following can help develop healthy self-worth:
1. Try constructing an inventory of your strengths or skills. What are you naturally good at? What can you do without too much effort? What can you offer to other people?
2. Forgive yourself for making awful choices or mistakes. We all have skeletons in our cupboards. None of us is perfect; it is part of being human. And we all need to learn how we can let go of regrets. If we don’t, we will always struggle with self-worth.
3. Be willing to take risks. Trying new things is what enables us to grow, and become better versions of ourselves. If you don’t quite succeed, don’t give up, just try again.
4. Surround yourself with people who can clearly see your worth, and who affirm and encourage you to see this in yourself. Also, surround yourself with people who have pushed through obstacles, and fought to have a health self-image, themselves. This will rub off on you, as well.