What does it mean to function well in life? What does it mean to have good mental health? It means we exhibit the following traits:
- Feeling good about ourselves; accepting that we have both strengths and weaknesses. Understanding that change takes time, and being patient with ourselves.
- Being able to effectively manage our emotions so we’re not controlled or overwhelmed by them (Feelings of anxiety, fear, anger, rage, bitterness, hatred, jealousy, and so on).
- Being able to form and enjoy stable, healthy, boundaried and meaningful relationships.
- Feeling at ease in the company of others.
- Not taking life too seriously; being able to laugh at ourselves.
- Respecting ourself, our values, beliefs, attitudes, choices and decisions. Also, respecting others and their right to think, choose, decide and act for themselves.
- Being able to accept, and to cope with, disappointment. This includes being able to adapt and compromise when this is healthy and appropriate.
- Being able to cope with life’s pressures and demands, and managing the problems we encounter in life.
- Being able to think, and decide, for ourselves. Not allowing others to define who we are.
- Being able to influence our world for good, and leaving behind a strong legacy.
These are qualities and traits which develop gradually. They come from experiencing both good and bad in life, and learning what’s important, and what’s a waste of time. They speak of small decisions to press on and persevere, to forgive ourselves and others, to be more compassionate, and to overlook the small stuff, and to focus on the good.
Number 9 is a big one for me. As a middle child, it’s easy for me to conform to the most forceful voice in the room.
To counter act this tendency, I collect quotes that remind me to find a better path. Here’s one of my favorites, by General Alexander Haig, who was also US Secretary of State in the early 1980s:
“Make of your life an affirmation, defined by your ideals, not the negation of others.”
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That’s a great quote. Very positive and empowering. Thanks for sharing it David 🙂
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thanks for the positive boost!
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And thanks for taking the time to read and comment!! Have a great week 🙂
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Reblogged this on Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative .
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‘Not taking life too seriously; being able to laugh at ourselves.’
and…
‘Being able to think, and decide, for ourselves. Not allowing others to define who we are.’
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Thanks for highlighting this. These are really important traits!
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Reblogged this on Noir and commented:
…Being able to think, and decide, for ourselves. Not allowing others to define who we are.
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Thanks for sharing this with your readers 😊
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U R welcome
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It’s so good to focus on what’s going well in your life as well as dealing with the issues. Excellent reminder to look forward to what you want your life to look and feel like.
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Yes, there is power in focusing on the good, and on thinking through what you want your life to look and feel like!! Thanks so much for your comment Alisen 🙂
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You make some excellent points. I’ve learned many of these over the years of dealing with my own mental health challenges, and they definitely help. Amy 🙂
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I’m glad they have helped you, too … And thanks for stopping by and sharing from your experience.
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I work on #2 all the time. It’s not easy and it affects everything else on this list. Thanks for posting. I’m hardly here on WP but I wondered where you were on Flickr so I came here. Hope you are doing ok!
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Thanks for the comment. I’m not on Flickr.
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I really enjoy your post ❤ This is such an important topic. I feel as if it gives those who struggle with mental health a direction to start going toward when working on their own mental health battles. Like a road map, it can also help pinpoint what areas need working on. Do you mind if I reblog this?
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What a lovely comment. Please do gone ahead and reblog the post. I hope it is helpful to your readers ❤️
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Thank you so much 🙂
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Thanks for sharing this with your readers 🙂
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