“It is what it is, and you feel what you feel.”
The starting place for healing from a trauma in your life is taking that courageous, and very shaky, step of facing the truth of what happened to you.
That means allowing all the feelings to rise up to the surface, and experiencing the pain all over again.
But what do you do after taking that brave step – because you know, for a fact, that it’s going to feel awful?
1. Give yourself time – take all the time you need – to deal with what comes up, and to mourn a million losses.
2. Allow the healing process to follow its own course. You can’t force the pace, or decide what it will look like.
3. Be patient with yourself, and especially during dark days. You don’t know how you will feel; you don’t know how you’ll react.
4. There are going to be times when you’ll think you’re going backwards, and you’ll feel that it is hopeless, and you’ll battle deep despair. Please know that this is normal. It’s a crucial part of healing.
5. Do not judge yourself. Just be kind to yourself. You are working on your healing. You are doing all it takes. And know that things will change. You won’t feel like this forever.