Things that destroy relationships …
1. Being abusive: As well as physical abuse, this includes put-downs, sarcasm, negative comments, withholding affection, stonewalling, refusing to talk, and repeatedly threatening to leave the relationship.
2. Being defensive: Individuals who are always on the defensive are so wrapped up in protecting themselves that they rarely grow in their relationships. They won’t admit that they have faults and so end up committing the same mistakes again and again. This eventually destroys the relationship.
3. Being critical: While there’s a place for the occasional critical remark, if you’re always complaining and pointing out their flaws then you’ll soon undermine your partner’s self-esteem. In all areas of life, a critical person is an unattractive person.
4. Always being right: If you’re always right, the other person’s always wrong. And who wants to feel that they have nothing to contribute, or their point of view is stupid, unwanted and wrong.
5. Being narcissistic and selfish: The person who always has to have their own way, or who’s only interested in their own needs and desires has little to add to a relationship.
6. Being dishonest: Trust is at the heart of all good relationships. If you can’t be real and honest, or you’re not dependable, then there’s no foundation for a strong relationship. This includes being unfaithful and not telling the whole truth.
7. Being superior: If you’re quick to judge others or to put people down, or you think that you are better than everybody else (more intelligent, prettier, cooler etc) then you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache. For although we all have strengths, and we may excel at times, each person is unique and is worthy of respect.
8. Being controlling: A relationship’s a gift. That person’s not your property. They’re allowed to be themselves, with their own views and beliefs. They don’t answer to you. They don’t have to change themselves. They’re autonomous and free. They’re not there to be controlled.
“Relationships need love. But love is not enough. It’s our choices that make or break relationships.“
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Well said! 😀
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Thanks! Have a great day 🙂
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The last sentence is a great post in itself. Our choices make, or break our relationships. Yet, unless we REALLY mess up, interpersonal bonds can be kept in good repair.
One of my favorite quotes, by American actor Jack Lemon: “We don’t live and die on one success or failure.”
God’s best to you. Thank you for your blog ministry.
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It’s good to remind ourselves of that – thank you. It’s the foundation and patterns that affect the quality of our relationships the most. We all get things wrong. Being willing to repair is what matters on those occasions.
And thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot. Have a great day and week 🙂
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So true! We need to set boundaries early on and know what our non-negotiables are so we don’t get into the wrong relationships.
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Yes, setting boundaries early on is really important. Thanks for emphasizing that.
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Dishonesty is the biggest one I usually see with myself and my close friends. Scary to see what our society has become.
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Yes. Dishonesty is so destructive! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, Taskey 🙂
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Once you start accepting each other for who you guys are it becomes much easier to be honest with your partner, if you can’t be honest with your partner, you should work on yourself and shouldn’t be in a relationship yet.
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Thanks for sharing this with your readers 🙂
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