This is What I Want you to Know …

This is what I want you to know …

1. You deserve to be loved and prized in the same way as the most loved and prized person in this world, is loved and prized. This is 100% true.

2. It is a lie that you are inferior and inadequate, or deserve to be mistreated, or to be treated as less than someone else, or hurt in any way.

3. From Day 1, you should have been showered with love and affection. You should have been seen.

4. You should have grown up feeling that you brought joy and happiness into the world, and into the lives of those around you.

5. You should have been given the message that you were talented and beautiful. That people liked you, and wanted you. You should have felt people wanted to be with you.

6. You should have been protected from mistreatment and harm.

7. If you were mistreated, or harmed, or betrayed then other people should have been there for you. They should have said: “This should never have happened to you.”

You should have been told that this was never about you at all. You didn’t cause it, and you didn’t deserve it. The person who had hurt was the one who was at fault!

7. You deserved to feel loved, and be treated with respect.

8. This is true about you. It is absolutely true. And any other message you’ve received is untrue.

“Learn to love yourself ruthlessly, for ruthless love is what you deserve.”

11 thoughts on “This is What I Want you to Know …

  1. Thank you for writing this because many need to read it. I was in an abuse marriage for thirty years and I always blamed myself and I should never, my husband did make the decision to do what he did. God is walking we me and my daughters every step of the way. I am reblogg this on quietmomentswithgod

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    • I’m so sorry you were in an abusive marriage. That’s a really difficult situation to be in. It has terrible negative effect on your self-worth and self-esteem. We start believing all sorts of awful, and self-limiting, lies about ourselves. It is NEVER your fault. As you say here, the decision to behave in those ways were your husband’s. Period. I’m glad you have a relationship with God and can draw strength from him as you and your daughters move forwards in life. Thanks for sharing this here. I’m sure it will help others. Blessings on your weekend.

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