Some Questions to Ask When Things Go Wrong

“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen, and live in what is happening.”

When something major goes wrong in life, in order to move forward we need to take stock of what exactly happened, and what we should do next. Here are some questions to help you with this process …

Ask yourself:

1. Is this something I should take seriously and try to put right? Is it something that is worth working on, and investing more time and energy on? What leads me to these conclusions?

2. How much of what happened is my fault? What did I contribute (if anything)?

3. How much of the situation is outside of my control? Will anything I do really alter things, or make a lasting difference?

4. Have I done everything I possibly can to change the situation? Have I tried and exhausted all possible options? What leads me to this conclusion?

5. Is it something I should put behind me, and decide to walk away from? What will be the short- and long-term benefits and costs of doing this?

6. Who else has gone through a similar experience? Who can I talk to who will understand, and give me valuable help and advice?

7. What can I learn from this experience, that will help me in the future?

8. How can I build myself up again, so I have the strength to go forward in life?

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