I’m Giving Myself Permission …

“I’m giving myself permission to vocalize my hurt, instead of pretending it doesn’t hurt for the sake of appearing easy going and ‘unaffected’.

Knowing that being affected by people and things is human.

Knowing that staying silent has only ever disconnected me from other people, and myself.

Knowing that giving feedback is the first step to repairing rupture.

Knowing that how other people respond to my boundaries gives me important information about how I want to continue to show up in that relationship.” – J. Daniell Koepke  

Society encourages us to be silent when we are hurting, or to put on a happy face. It sends the message that other peoples’ needs and feelings of comfort are more important than our own.

But that isn’t true. You have a right to be honest about the things that have happened, and how these have impacted you. It isn’t being difficult. It isn’t being disloyal. It isn’t being negative. It isn’t moaning. It is being honest and real.

And we need to be honest and real … otherwise it will catch up with us later. Through our health. Through the way we relate to other people. And through the limits we put on ourselves.