10 Things to Give Up

Suddenly, she realized that a fresh start was hers for the taking; that she could be the woman she’d always she’d always seen on the horizon – her future self. One step at a time, starting today.” – Life On Purpose

Some things to consider giving up include:

1. Trying to please, and be acceptable, to others

2. The fear of making a mistake

3. The fear of change

4. A fear of the future

5. Guilt or shame that’s tied to your past

6. Beating yourself up, or putting yourself down

7. Over-thinking

8. Living by your feelings

9. The desire to get even with others

10. The tendency to procrastinate.

How would your life be different if you choose to give up one of these things?

Which one could you choose to start on today?

7 thoughts on “10 Things to Give Up

  1. Number two, fear of making a mistake, is a good place for me to start this morning. I’ve noticed that people who take the lead and get things done tend to be risk takers. Understandably, these are usually educated risks, but true doers don’t get caught in the “ Ready…aim….aim..aim” syndrome—they fire! My boss is a great leader. Yet even after over 40 years in education she makes mistakes. Her practice is to simply apologize to all involved, recalibrate, and get back to being a good school principal. I want to be a leader, like her, so I’m choosing today to not fear mistakes. If we learn from them, it’s okay, right?

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  2. Wow! You and I are on the same track so often, DLH.

    Am guilty, to varying degrees, of all. But number one is a huge theme of my life. Very gender specific, I think. I’ve been working on it for years, and realise it is still a very strong message I carry. Acts of service. Do for others. Messages our society engrains in so many young girls, especially. Add to that being born first. The eldest.

    That your worth is all about what you do, what you sacrifice. I often wonder how it must feel being born and taught differently. If I was non-binary. Or male. Or…. Or if I was not the eldest sister of younger brothers only.

    No one deliberately did this to me. It happened because of cultural standards. I recall fighting gender expectations a lot. Especially when I was first with Rog, but also when I became a mother. I gave up my low paid, non childcare hours friendly job, but was farming, expected to do all the sacrifice. All the stay at home stuff. I prioritised Roger and the kids’ pleasure.



  3. That pleasing others driver is such a hard one to recover from – but it can completely take over, and ruin, your life. It hits you eventually that others don’t make a fraction of the sacrifices you make for them. I often wonder how birth order affects our personality as well. Interestingly, my younger daughter has a very powerful please other driver but the older really doesn’t!!!


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