Yes, You Can Learn to Love Yourself


You are fine just as you are. You don’t need to prove a thing.”

Life often feels like one long competition. Who is the prettiest, smartest, funniest, most interesting … and so it goes on.

There is pressure to compare ourselves with one another, and that can often lead to massive self-doubt.

So what can do you do when the internal tapes are constantly saying that you don’t measure up?  

It takes work to ignore, and to switch off, all those voices.

But you need to feel comfortable with yourself.

Think about it … You don’t want to feel that you’ve spent your whole life attacking yourself, and undermining your self-worth.

With that in mind:

1. Prioritize taking care of your health, and celebrate your body for all it does for you. Pay attention to your diet. Make sure you find some form of exercise you love, and can engage in regularly. Try to regulate your sleep patterns. Take care of your teeth. Participate in yoga or practice meditation. This will help you to de-stress, and get life back in perspective.

2. Make time to listen to your inner voice. Is there something you need? Do you feel that something’s missing? Do you feel you’re being authentic and true to who you are? Sometimes we do things others want us to do, or we compromise our values to get others’ approval.  

But at the end of the day, we need to follow our own path; and if we listen to our heart, it will usually lead us there.

3. Make time for those things that bring you happiness. Do you know what makes you happy? Then do more of that. Investing in your interests will increase your confidence, and you’ll also find you blossom … for you truly love your life!

4. Learn to love your little quirks; the things that make you unique. Sometimes we feel self-conscious – or we even ashamed – of certain aspects of our personality.

And that’s really crazy … for they make us unique, and often other people find those quirks fascinating. Don’t hide those parts “you”. Don’t apologise for them. Embrace and laugh about them. See their beauty; they are lovely.

No-one else is you, and that’s your superpower!”

9 thoughts on “Yes, You Can Learn to Love Yourself

  1. Being “you” is your superpower! Yes, indeed.

    “Today you are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is “you-er” than you!” Dr. Seuss

    It is wrong to judge others, but it’s equally damaging to worry too much if they are judging you.

    Be brave. Be strong! Like Maya Angelo said, “Sometimes you’ve got to take life by the lapels and just go for it.”


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    • Great comment! Thanks for sharing these thoughts, David. I really resonate with the statement: “It is wrong to judge others, but it’s equally damaging to worry too much if they are judging you.” So true!

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      • Thank you. I came up with the statement on judging one day when I was free writing in my journal. I’m probably not the first person to say it, but the idea that judging is a two-edged sword was a revelation to me. Stop the paralysis of analysis; just live your live the best you know how and let others live theirs!

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