Some Thoughts on Broken Trust

“Trust starts with truth, and ends with truth.”

1. If you lie and choose to break your partner’s trust, he or she may never fully trust you again. The damage will depend on how major the lie is … But often the effects will be serious and long-lasting …

For how can you determine if they’re lying in the future? You were hood-winked in the past so it could happen once again.

2. Once trust has been broken, things can never be the same. There will always be a tiny hairline crack in the mirror. You can’t reverse the damage, or eradicate all traces. The facts are still the facts, and the memories remain.

3. Betrayal stops a person from equating trust and love. Now, trust has to be earned, and it must be verified. A person has to prove they are worthy of your love. Saying “sorry” or “I’ve changed” doesn’t cut it anymore.  

4. Trusting someone’s risky. We are laying ourselves open. And if someone takes advantage of our vulnerability, we won’t forget they hurt us, and they put their own needs first. They aren’t a safe person for they didn’t care for us … and they didn’t really care about the damage they would cause.

5. If we choose to trust a person, we are giving them the power to totally destroy us, or to cause us serious harm. Self-preservation must come first. And that’s why we’re hesitant to ever trust that person, or what they say, again.

6. If someone “forces you” to trust, then this should sound a warning bell. For trust cannot be forced. It must develop over time. Also, if that person truly loved you, they would let you set the pace. They wouldn’t pressurize you. Your wellbeing would come first.