It’s Ok that you’re not OK

“Here’s what I most want you to know: this really is as bad as you think.

No matter what anyone else says, this sucks. What has happened cannot be made right. What is lost cannot be restored. There is no beauty here inside this central fact.

Acknowledgement is everything.

You’re in pain. It can’t be made better.

The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can’t be cheered out of.

You don’t need solutions. You don’t need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief. To acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring in the hole that was your life.

Something cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.” – Megan Divine

17 thoughts on “It’s Ok that you’re not OK

  1. I needed to read this. I’m not okay but I will be 🙌 it’s only a matter of time to wait for the sun to rise again and shine rays of sunshine and happiness on my soul.. until then I will sit, accept I’m not okay, and nurture myself.

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  2. This is a really important message. You can’t be “cheered up” from trauma and yet people who don’t know any better will try. (“Quit focusing on the affair and try to remember all of the amazing times together.” …. As if that helps?) The pain does get better, but it takes time and effort.

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    • “As if that helps!” Right!!! The only way the pain will ease eventually is by choosing to go through it, processing the experience, and getting some distance and healing through the inevitable passing of time. Thanks for the comment blackacre 🙂

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  3. I so agree that it is really important to acknowledge that there are times when things are not ok. Take time to feel and process what is going on and hopefully have someone by your side during those times.

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