Life after Trauma

What Trauma Does to You

You turn into a person you don’t recognize, acting in ways you never thought you would act, feeling things you never felt before.

You feel like you’re a foreigner in your own body. You have anxiety attacks. You wake up in a panic. You feel intense emotions at unexpected things.

You’re triggered unexpectedly, and constantly.  

Even though you may find your old self again, trauma permanently changes you.

You lose your optimism, and can’t believe you’ll ever recover and enjoy your life again.

You lose your faith in humanity. You start to think anyone could hurt and harm another … no matter who it is, or how wonderful they seem.

You lose your sense of humour – at least for a while.

Things People don’t ‘get’ about Trauma

You don’t just deal with it, and move on. Everything within you resists recovery – because your brain wants to protect you from being harmed again.

There isn’t an off switch you can use with your reactions. They come out of the blue, and it can take a while to calm down the responses, and to quieten the fears.

This is a game with no rules; you have to go with the flow. Your subconscious holds the reigns. Your conscious mind no longer has control.

You can’t act some part and pretend you’re over it. Trauma is too powerful. It dominates your life.

There is Hope

You can recover and move on, eventually. It takes a lot of work. It takes tenacity. But you can get in touch with your old self again.

There are people who can help, if you look hard enough. But be careful who you tell. Very few will understand. Be persistent, and can looking. It is worth it in the end.

Often, you find a new tribe. A tribe you never knew existed. A tribe you never, ever thought about before. And you’re very, very grateful you have found this tribe.

You develop a much deeper, new respect for yourself, and a fierceness at enforcing healthy boundaries.

Although trauma leaves it mark, there can be payoffs as well. It turns you into someone who can empathize with others. And you can hold out a bright beacon of hope to them, as well.

Each of us heals in our own way.”

– Rachel Remen

17 thoughts on “Life after Trauma

  1. Sometimes reality hits me and I feel like one of those animals that need to be confined within the protection of the zoo. Like I can’t survive in the wild anymore. There are triggers everywhere. But in the zoo I’m safe so I thrive💖… I can’t function outside the zoo bubble 💔

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    • 💖✨🌼🌸I shouldn’t be ashamed of having the ability and skillset to create my bubble. I can do a lot from my bubble. I thrive in my bubble. 🌸🌼✨💖 It means I’m learning to take care of myself and my loved ones from the safety of my sanctuary I created🙂 Nice self reflective morning🌈. Thank you 🙏

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  2. I definitely agree that trauma has the best power to transform us or to destroy us. The sad part of it is that trauma is always easier to have us destroyed than to transform us. The effort that one has to invest in for turning around trauma towards a worthy outcome is undoubtedly exhausting. I’ve yet been able to do so and keep battling with the hope part of it. I’ve been tired from it all for so long already, yet there’s a part of me that is pushing me through because it can’t allow me to let my suffering be worthless.

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    • I’m really impressed by your commitment to push on through. Recovering from trauma is so difficult. It’s a real battle at times. As you say, it is always easier for trauma to destroy than transform. There’s absolutely no doubt about that. But it is definitely worth it in the end … Thank you for sharing from your personal experience. I wish you the very best!

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  3. “Although trauma leaves it mark, there can be payoffs as well. It turns you into someone who can empathize with others.”

    That statement is absolutely correct. I am a survivor of multiple life traumas (the suicides of two family members within six years). I have much greater empathy now than if I had not experienced those tragedies. There were many hellish months and years leading to the healing and recovery journey. This post covers so many good pieces of advice and truth.

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      • Oh yes, I would not have survived without the support of safe understanding people who loved me often by just listening or being there. Although, the main thing that took me through the dark valley was Jesus Christ. The others were what I needed when my faith was shaken and weak.

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