Quote of the Day: And that is OK

“Perhaps most of all, though, you deserve to be okay. You deserve to know that a day in which you can just barely get out of bed because you are sad, or sick, or simply not ready to see the outside is not the end of the world. You deserve to know that moments of weakness do not make you fundamentally weak, only fundamentally human, and that sometimes we’re not going to be effusively happy, and that is okay.” – Chelsea Fagan

And that is OK.

Sometimes we need to be kind to ourselves, and to simply accept where we are today.

Perhaps we wish we were stronger inside

Or more able to process, and heal from, the pain.

Our desire and our hopes … they are in the right place.

But we are where are.

And it is what it is.

Healing takes time.

Recovery takes time.

It’s a long, painful road

And it takes a long time.

You are doing your best with the load that you bear.

And today’s a tough day.

It’s been hard.

It’s OK.  

9 thoughts on “Quote of the Day: And that is OK

  1. I recently heard the phrase, “Your emotions don’t define you.” What do you think?

    Sadly, emotions CAN come to define me— especially if I hold on to them too long.

    When difficult emotions surface, maybe we should ourselves : “Where are these feelings likely to lead if I dwell on them?”

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    • I actually agree with you. When something shocking or traumatic has happened emotions can stick around for a while – and that’s OK.
      But the purpose of ‘feeling our feelings’ is to process the distressing experience, and to move in the direction of healing.
      Yes, the negative ones will still assault us … but as time goes on we should find we are able to recover from triggers and assaults more quickly. There should be a move in the direction of equilibrium and being able to experience a wider range of emotions over time – and that includes the more positive ones.
      Of course, if a person has PTSD the recovery is going to be significantly slower as the effect on the brain is a lot more profound.

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      • I also agree…somewhat though. I think it defines us only to people who can’t relate with people that have gone through anything tragic or have truly suffered pain/grief/abuse…ect. Sometimes something might trigger us or an unexpected emotional wave hit when we’re least expecting it. Those who can’t relate may think that’s who we are or always have been and that’s what just seems to define us…if that makes sense. Having emotional trauma or breakdown or however you describe it…is just our way to release those held in feelings. Especially when held in too long. I think another hurdle is learning to accept these emotions and yes, we are going to have those days when they pour out…and also accept that there will be people who won’t understand…that way it possibly won’t feel as if dwelling might lead somewhere unhealthy…I don’t know. I’m just giving a little of how I see it. I’m also very new to trying to deal with my Hell of all this.
        In fact, today was my most emotionally, manic, painful day and thankfully I wasn’t out in public to display my meltdown….more like a manic/angry/emotional meltdown…let’s just say it was not a good day. But luckily I was in good company from someone incredibly supportive that let me let it all out. We need those people that we truly trust and love to allow us to let it pour out and not say anything. Try not to dwell or hold them in too long. If it’s possible anyway. Ugh…it is only our own unique nightmare and it can sure suck!

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      • I’m sorry you’ve had such a horrible day. Those dark times really suck. And sometimes there’s nothing else to do but to accept that’s how it is right now, feel the pain, and keep hoping (believing?) there is light at the end of the tunnel. Like you, I believe there’s a difference between going through tough times and experiencing trauma. Trauma is another beast entirely, and one it is almost impossible to ‘get’ unless you’ve been there. Thinking of you.

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