
If only I could love and like myself …
But for so many people, this can feel impossible. It’s an uphill battle, and a constant, daily struggle to really love themselves, and to feel that they’re worthwhile. If this describes your life, I hope the following will help you:
1. Instead of thinking about everything that’s wrong with you, try to get into the habit of thinking about aspects of yourself you are happy with – and, perhaps, are even proud of. It can be something as simple as taking pleasure from a beautiful garden you have created; or a delicious meal you have cooked; or the fact that you are good at languages; or that people find you easy to be around.
2. Remind yourself that no-one is perfect. Everyone has flaws. For example, actresses and models often look good because people have spent hours on their appearance, deliberately creating a specific image, or shooting pictures of them from a particular angle, or in a certain light.
Bear in mind, too, that people who are accomplished in one area may perform well below average in another area. It’s rare to find someone who is good at everything.
3. Be kind to yourself when you survey your past. We all make some mistakes. Everyone – not only. Also, not everyone has had the same advantages in life. And some of us have had some very bad experiences. That has had an influence on our life’s trajectory.
4. Work on liking most of yourself. Perhaps you could just like one tiny portion of yourself. That could be a good starting place for now. The fact is, almost everyone can find something they’d like to change about themselves. Something they don’t like … or feel ashamed of … or embarrassed about. Maybe bear that in mind when you are looking at yourself through negative, demanding, and critical eyes.
5. At the end of the day, we are more that the sum of our parts. Taken together, all the parts of who we are create an individual who is totally unique. No-one has ever been like you. And no-one will ever be like you. Because you are you, you add value to the world in a way that only you, and no-one else can ever do. That makes you valuable and irreplaceable.
“Quieten that voice of doubt inside of you. You are good enough. You are smart enough. You are worthy of love. You deserve good things. You are beautiful because you are you.”
Great Post! yes, please be gentle and loving with yourself. Until we do, No One else will either.. Nice job! ❤️
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Thanks for your kind and thoughtful comment, Cindy!
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You are so welcome… truth speaks volumes. ❤️👏👏👏👏
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U nailed it also. Thank you for inspiring.
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Thanks.M’bola, t’m glad you found it helpful ❤️
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Reblogged this on Disablities & all sorts of Mental Health Issues.
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Thanks so much. Have a lovely day 😊
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“Today you are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is “youer” than you!” Dr. Sues
Excellent points! I wrote all of them down for further reference. Thank you. Blessings.
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Hi Dave. Good to hear from you. Glad you thought the post was helpful 😊
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The final quite sums up how our lives can gain some traction. Doubt in ourselves can be an overwhelming liability.
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Yes, when you have zero confidence in yourself it’s almost impossible to act at all, and enjoy almost all relationships. Thanks for reading and commenting bigskybuckeye 🙂
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Love the first point in particular! We are sometimes guilty of only focusing on the not so good things about us and not thinking about the good things about us. We all have things that we are great at 🙂
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Me too! I find that one particularly helpful!! And, yes, we ALL have things we are great at. Thanks for reading and commenting! Have a great day.
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I appreciate this self-compassionate focus on being gentle and kind to self, thank you!
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Thank you Quietest Poet. As you say, having a self-compassionate focus is so important. Have a lovely day 🙂
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As always, I enjoy reading your posts—and the comments here. 😊 thank you.
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Thank you too! Have a wonderful weekend 💕
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Again, excellent advice. ❤
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Thanks. Blessings 💕
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Thank you so much for sharing this. This is so helpful ❤️
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Thank you for writing this. people need to hear it. You are you. I think everyone one tries to make people look like them. but the most precious thing is what makes you, you. Again well thought out, Thank you.
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Yes, “you are you” and your are unique and beautiful for the person you are. Thanks for taking the time to comment. Appreciated 🙂
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