“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better, or that there are worse things in the world.
But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered.
I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.”
– John Green
It doesn’t help when our pain is minimized.
When we are hurting, it is because it mattered. And the more it hurts, the more it mattered.
Pretending otherwise to make others feel better, just leaves us feeling judged and alone.