“To be hopeless is to lose all motivation to do what we need to live. It is to be in a deep, dark well without a rope. And even if it were there, we wouldn’t have the energy to climb it.”
– Dr. Winfried Sedhoff
Having hope matters. It matters a lot. Anyone who’s lost their sense of hope can tell you that.
But hope is something that can fade out of our life when awful things have happened …
Or when we’ve hoped for far too long, and nothing seems to change.
Hope can start to drain away.
If this is your experience, then what steps can you take to start to recapture that lost sense of hope? Here are some suggestions:
1. First, take proper care of your physical needs. You need to have an adequate amount of nutritious food, sleep, rest, gentle exercise – everything associated with TLC – to be in a place to even contemplate pursuing hope.
2. Although you need some respite from responsibilities, and you probably don’t want to spend a lot of time with people, we actually need to be around other people. However, you need to be wise in who you spend time with. These should be people who unconditionally love you. People who love as you are, right now. You don’t need people who are critical, demanding, judgmental or lacking in empathy.
3. Work on changing your narrative. What do I mean by that? When bad things happen and we want to give up, our self-talk is often very negative. We find ourselves saying things like:
“Nothing good will ever happen to me.”
“I’m just not as good/ talented/ loveable as other people. I’m worthless, a failure, or inadequate.”
“It’s my fault that X or Y happened. I deserved it. All of it.”
Although these beliefs might feel right at the time, they are usually biased, highly skewed and extreme. It’s important to challenge and change these kinds of thoughts – so your thinking is more balanced, and reflects reality. What can really help is having a good friend (or counsellor) who can work through this with you, in an objective way.
4. Try to identify small things you can do to bring a sense of meaning back into your life. It can be anything at all … Doing fun things with your children. Going on a hike in a beautiful location. Walking on the beach on a bright sunny day.
It just needs to be something small that works for you.
“Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up, and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come … Don’t give up.” – Anne Lamott
Great points. I like point #2 the best.
Definitely we need to be around other people, but we need to be selective about who we choose to be around.
And hopefully, we have the option of staying away from people with negative attitudes. 🤗
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Thanks for highlighting that Sally. It’s so true … we need to CHOOSE who we will spend time with 🙂
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This is a good point! Stop wasting time with people who are not giving you support.
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Thanks so much for taking the time to add your thoughts. Yes, when we are in a desperate place, it’s really detrimental to spend time with people who are not supportive – and who may even make you feel worse.
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Great to read! Thank you.
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Thanks so much for the kind comment cmartzloff 🙂
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It’s definitely the little things we do or don’t do approaching the bad and the good. That’s what controls our ability to smile more.
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Great comment! Thanks for adding to the conversation 🙂
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Thank you, DLH Namaste 🙏
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Thank you! Always good to hear from you horsesrcumin ❤️
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These are valid points to regain our hope. Changing your narration is one of the critical areas that must be done. Blessings.
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Working on changing our can have a huge impact on our feelings. Thanks for emphasizing that Beverley ❤️
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❤
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Reblogged this on Emerging From The Dark Night and commented:
Some excellent advice in this post about taking care of ourselves in recovery.
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Thanks!!!
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You have so many great posts on your site it was a challenge not to reblog all of them… keep up the amazing work.
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What a lovely thing to say. Thanks so much 💕
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All true. 🙂
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Changing the narrative is so important. I still have a lot of work to do on that.. Had to reshare this one.. Thanks so much for it.
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Thanks so much! I appreciate the share 🙂 For some of us, changing the narrative can feel like a life’s work – but it is definitely worth the effort and fight. Have a great day!
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It is its Herculean we get fed so many soul destroying narratives in our culture. truly !!
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Reblogged this on Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative .
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Incredible words, insightful. Learning is a great honour blessings 🌏🌐
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Reblogged this on Grayer Gardens and commented:
Amazing. I had to share this one.
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Thank you so much. I’m glad you found the post helpful. Have a great day!
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Many of your points have been talking to me during these pandemic days. It can become so easy to step back into darkness, without a sense of hope.
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I agree. It’s very easy to step back into darkness. We do it without even realizing it. Recapturing hope takes effort, and isn’t always easy, but I find it really helps when I make the effort. Thanks for your thoughtful comments. Much appreciated.
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Thank you!
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Yes purpose, hope, and faith are what keep us alive. When we lose all three we die!
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Yes, we can easily underestimate how important purpose, hope and faith are 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.
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You are welcome.
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