We live in a world full of comparisons.
Does she have a sexier figure than me? Does she look younger, or better for her age? Is she so much smarter? Have a better career? Do people think that she is funnier than me?
I suspect it all begins in the early years of life when we start fighting hard to get our parents’ attention.
But it’s a process that continues for the rest of our life.
And it’s a process that leads to insecurity, as well.
For at any point in time we could cease to measure up – and we could lose the affection of those who matter most.
Like our family, or close friends.
Like our partner, or our spouse.
Yet each of us is different – individual and unique.
And we start to lose ourselves when we make comparisons.
But comparing’s so ingrained, such a feature of our lives, that it’s hard to switch it off. To stop weighing up our worth.
Yet we cannot love ourselves if we reject part of ourselves.
If we always see some defect, or we view ourselves as flawed.
And those differences in outlook, in personality, in interests and experiences, in qualities and looks, are what make us so unique.
Not a clone.
And being you – just you – it’s a gift you give the world.
You touch and nourish lives in an individual way.
If only you could see that this person who is ‘you’ is precious as you are.
You don’t need to strive, or change.
You are free to be yourself.
There is no need to compare.
“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.” – Iyanla Vanzant