Beautiful You

she picked up the broken pieces of her life

The quality of your relationships will determine the quality of your life.”

If your life has been blown apart by betrayal, then you’ll know for a fact that this quote is true. You’ve been hit with a sledge hammer by the person you loved most. Now your world lies in tatters, and you’re living in a daze.

And, of course, this relationship is massively important. It would be foolish to downplay its significance. But even more important than your partner or spouse, is the relationship you have with yourself at this time. This is the relationship you need to focus on.

For example, betrayal rips to shreds our self-image and self-worth so it’s easy to lose touch with the person we once were.

But, inside you’re the same woman. You’re still smart and beautiful. You can integrate the fragments, and reconnect with her.

And, honestly, it’s crucial, that you do this for yourself.

How do You do That?

Working through the following questions can help you with this process.

  1. How has betrayal changed the way you see yourself?
  2. What do you say about yourself – because of this?
  3. How do you feel about yourself right now?
  4. How do you think other people see you?
  5. What did you think your future would be like?
  6. What do you believe about your future today?
  7. How would your best friend describe you as a person?
  8. What have you accomplished or achieved in your life? What do you like most about yourself?
  9. If you could wave a magic wand, and be completely healed, how would you be acting? What would your life look like?
  10. Close your eyes for a minute. Try to picture this life. Stay with the image. Let it come into sharp focus. How are you feeling as you picture this strong woman, a woman who is happy and confident again?

Instead of saying: ‘I’m damaged, I’m broken, I have trust issues’ say: ‘I’m healing, I’m rediscovering myself, I’m starting over.’ Positive self-talk.”

19 thoughts on “Beautiful You

  1. Positive self-talk is certainly beneficial. More powerful, however, is the assurance that we are still of value and greatly loved by the Creator. “Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows” (Luke 12: 7). Human relationships may fail us. But God’s love never will. ❤

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  2. God changed my life entirely. 💙
    I stopped having sex 💄5 years ago. I stopped almost all of my abominations😈. It took prayer and fasting but so happy Jesus is the love of my life. I struggle with cursing🗣but I rebuke it , repent and continue to try.

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  3. Love your post. It’s a journey. After a year or two of journaling, reading, listening to experts, learning about narcissists then letting out a whole lot of anger I finally feel like I’m in a much better place and am able to focus on my dreams and goals. I haven’t felt this happy in a long time. It was A LOT of work though and even required I go into how I was raised to figure out why I was attracting those type of men into my life, when that is not what I wanted. I do not know if I’m healed enough for another relationship because I haven’t tested it out and really am just enjoying peace and pursuing my passions.

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    • Thanks for sharing from your personal experience bubblebathselfempowerment. It sounds like you have done an amazing amount of work, and I know that work isn’t easy at all. There are no shortcuts to recovery. I wish there were – especially since we never asked for this heartache in the first place. But part of loving and respecting ourselves is doing whatever is necessary to heal, and be ourselves again. It’s great you are at the place you’re at today. Thanks for the encouragement 🙂

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