“The quality of your relationships will determine the quality of your life.”
If your life has been blown apart by betrayal, then you’ll know for a fact that this quote is true. You’ve been hit with a sledge hammer by the person you loved most. Now your world lies in tatters, and you’re living in a daze.
And, of course, this relationship is massively important. It would be foolish to downplay its significance. But even more important than your partner or spouse, is the relationship you have with yourself at this time. This is the relationship you need to focus on.
For example, betrayal rips to shreds our self-image and self-worth so it’s easy to lose touch with the person we once were.
But, inside you’re the same woman. You’re still smart and beautiful. You can integrate the fragments, and reconnect with her.
And, honestly, it’s crucial, that you do this for yourself.
How do You do That?
Working through the following questions can help you with this process.
- How has betrayal changed the way you see yourself?
- What do you say about yourself – because of this?
- How do you feel about yourself right now?
- How do you think other people see you?
- What did you think your future would be like?
- What do you believe about your future today?
- How would your best friend describe you as a person?
- What have you accomplished or achieved in your life? What do you like most about yourself?
- If you could wave a magic wand, and be completely healed, how would you be acting? What would your life look like?
- Close your eyes for a minute. Try to picture this life. Stay with the image. Let it come into sharp focus. How are you feeling as you picture this strong woman, a woman who is happy and confident again?
“Instead of saying: ‘I’m damaged, I’m broken, I have trust issues’ say: ‘I’m healing, I’m rediscovering myself, I’m starting over.’ Positive self-talk.”