Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

this is the beginning

Sawubona.

This beautiful word in the Zulu language captures so much more than the word hello. Behind the greeting is the powerful message:

“I see you, and by seeing you, I bring you into being.”

And for me, this loving greeting begs the fundamental questions (questions that I think we all should ask ourselves):

“Do I see myself? Do I really see myself? What do I see when I turn my eyes on me?”

Answering those Questions

1. If you’ve been truly loved and valued – the way you should have been – then perhaps you see the beauty and the gifts that you possess. You know you are important. That you should be listened to. Your viewpoints are worth hearing. People take you seriously.

Yes, you have so much to offer. Take those opportunities. You’re bound to be successful. Doors will open up for you.

And someone’s going to love you, for you’re worthy of true love. You’re pretty and you’re funny. People want to be with you.

2. But if you’ve been abandoned, or rejected or mistreated, perhaps your view is different; it’s distorted in some way. And the petals that were opening have shut tight in self-protection. They cannot thrive and blossom in the darkness and cold air.

And there’s things that you’re ashamed of. You might think you have no value. There’s parts that you keep hidden. You’ve been criticized and judged.

And those lies are so destructive. They have killed your self-compassion. You now believe their message, and you cannot see your worth.

Who are You Really?

But you’re not that individual. You are beautiful and precious. Your value? You are priceless.  Can’t you see this for yourself?

And this woman, she is strong for she’s survived some hellish moments. She dealt with pain and heartache – but she’s fought through, and survived.

Yes, this woman is amazing. She has character and courage. She’s brave and independent. A role model for us all. And her spirit’s strong and healthy. Storms and trials don’t defeat her.

Can you see her? Really see her? For this woman, she is you.

Sawubona.

7 thoughts on “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

  1. Wow, this hit home quite a lot, thanks. Most of this was true for me— apart from the bit about being a woman xD.

    But yes, I fear being abandoned/rejected, to the point that I mess up potential relationships once they start becoming a good thing. I start acting weird.

    I’ve rarely been taken seriously or been told my viewpoints are worth hearing, and much less had any encouragement in life for anything. When I get either of these things, they make me uncomfortable, because they’re hard to believe and I then fear losing that input!

    All in all, feels like I’m walking on eggshells with most people :\.

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    • Thanks for your honesty, Robin. It’s scary how our past experiences follow us into our future, and deeply affect the way we see ourselves. I really hope you are able to see that you are both worthwhile in yourself, and that you have worthwhile views and opinions. I also wish you love, happiness and security in your relationships 🙂 You truly deserve it!

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