One of the things about a sex addiction is it’s generally an isolating, taboo topic. And that makes it very hard to talk about.
So where can you turn when you’re in a state of shock, or you’re hit by a tsunami of intense, unwanted feelings?
How about your family? For some that might be helpful. But maybe you are hesitant to say too much to them. After all, you have to see them every Christmas or Thanksgiving. And if they’re in “the know” they’ll remember this forever. And chances are they’ll never feel the same about your spouse.
Well, what about your friends? That is complicated too. They’re bound to have opinions and might tell you what to do. And often they’ll expect you to adhere to their suggestions. Yet often they don’t understand, or truly empathize.
You could join a self-help group. That is not a bad suggestion. At least these other people have gone through what you’ve gone through. And though it might feel awkward sharing with a group of strangers, you might find you’ll feel better for opening up to them.
Of course, it’s very likely that you’re talking to a counsellor. That’s helpful and supportive, for they meet you where you are. A counsellor won’t judge you. They expect there to be dark times … But they are paid to be there, and it’s often scheduled help.
And, so, it can be lonely when you’re carrying this burden. It feels like a life sentence. A heavy load to bear. But please know there are others – even if it’s word press bloggers – who understand your trauma, and genuinely care.
Please reach out for support. You’re not meant to feel alone.
Note: The title is a quote by Sue Johnson, from the book Love Sense.